You were seen. You were heard. You were understood. Yet you didn’t belong for a single second.
Why? Because that model puts you in receive-only mode. It’s a one-way street. If your boss or your company doesn’t shower you with validation, you’re powerless. You end up sitting in meetings waiting for someone to grant you permission to exist.
Real belonging doesn’t work like that. Belonging is an active, bilateral choice. It’s a two-way street of choosing: “We are each other’s.”
Read MoreIn elite performing teams, the same neurobiology applies.
When leaders consistently turn toward the small bids — a question, a concern, a celebration — they create the chemistry of belonging:
Training your dog doesn’t have to feel like a battle of wills. The same neurobiology that helps us humans form habits also works for our dogs. Their brains, like ours, are wired to belong …
Read MoreWhen we are theirs and they are ours, we fight for each other instead of against each other. The Own part in Feel Own Care Belonging and A Little Old Lady
Read MoreHe ran. For himself. For his trainers. For his team. For his country. For his world. That’s a lot of stacked belonging to tap into. And a lot of performance. Same goes for every person you hire.
Read MoreWhen we define belonging this way, we get a frame for living out a new belief where our belonging is also in our power to create. So, that even in the stress during the formation of belonging, we actually can get stronger.
Read MoreIn the magic quadrant of belonging, your brain and heart get to keep its top-of-mind focus of choice. Like your company shared purpose! The other three quadrants make it impossible to maintain that focus.
Read MoreWhen your people belong, their efforts pertaining to DEI play a natural part in deepening the company tribe. They'll unite and fight for each other's diverse uniqueness because the ways your people belong are clear in their invitation and boundary. Psychological safety can't provide that. You can't just play it safe.
Read MoreWouldn’t it be great to get the job, or promotion, instead of being told later by your company, “If I’d known you were so good at this, I’d have given you the role?” If you’d accepted the compliment and their appreciation and focus landed on you? If you’d offered up something you are really good at, they knew you were the one for the job.
Read MoreThat risky thing you've gotta figure out, it gets done because you feel, own, and care for someone. Not because you're safe. The line when safe enough to innovate gets closer the more you belong.
Read MoreNo matter how hard we work and practice to perform, to get shit done, our life outside of work also happens. We can work our whole life and never live, never belong. Or, we can belong and work, and live our whole life.
Read MoreIt's about the heart, and belonging, by living in the company core values, and believing together in shared purpose. It begins with the Us Story. Here, filtering by how one sounds and looks, seems kind of dumb.
Read MoreThis keeps the "You" in your vision and to know when to scrap a mission, and create another. That, "there's no better" place in your visionary world, where you're with whom you love and belong, and doing what you love!
Read MoreJoon Chang’s words contain a marvelously insightful paradigm for belonging at work. And to get it, and shift ourselves into belonging there, we just have to change one word.
Read MoreIt’s like taking a lead fall. That’s how hard it is for most business people to change their command-and-control business model to a belonging culture. If I let go of the command and control hold, I will die. I mean, it’s working, so if it ain’t broke don’t fix it. But at what cost, what height and quality not achieved?
Read MoreYou don’t want to lose your highest performing and most critical people, but you will, when they stop belonging. And if you’re adding more money to keep them, chances are, they've already left. It's just that their butts haven't followed their hearts, yet.
Read MoreDo Gratitude. You get higher oxytocin, they get higher oxytocin = results in more belonging.
Read MoreWhen you're around people where the WHOLE YOU belongs and really matters, you know. When we’re where we belong it’s about us. We belong, or we leave.
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